50 Reasons To Develop Emotional Intelligence

50 Reasons to Develop Emotional Intelligence

50 Reasons to Develop Emotional Intelligence

Is life getting better and more comfortable with each day? You should be becoming less fearful, less anxious and less nervous. You want to be amassing the wisdom that gives you confidence, composure and resolve; using each day to develop a relaxed ‘got it together’ demeanor. Ideally, you are on your way to mastering, not just the workplace but, all of life.

But few pull it off. Many people feel trapped, penned in by life. They think life is passing them by. They are unfulfilled and feel life is flat, unchallenging, drudgery.

Many people want something else, but they feel they can’t afford a career change. They have a family, a mortgage, too many responsibilities. They feel stuck.

Okay, maybe it’s too much of a luxury to pursue complete bliss—life in a hammock overlooking the ocean. But you owe it to yourself and your family to find meaning, purpose, and a new direction, new energy and a new enthusiasm from your existing life situation.  

The key to mastering life is to master your emotions. The great news is this is possible. Feelings are your power base. They are why we rule the earth. Your ability to seize the reins, to temper your emotions and take back your ability to control your responses, not to let the passions and overreactions of life direct you, to be in the driver’s seat is within your range right now. 

We must not overlook or diminish this opportunity to use these 50 reasons to develop your emotional intelligence.

Here are 50 Reasons to Develop Emotional Intelligence

1.You are your most valuable asset. Everything comes through you.

2. Many people react to and act upon emotions without feeling or understanding them.

3. Combat the daily deluge. Negativity will find you without any effort on your part. If you want peace, composure, and productivity, you have to build it.

4. “One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.” –John Lennon

5. Emotion is stronger than thought.

6. Judgments, accusing and labeling is universal. He’s a socialist. She’s a liberal. Recognize you are not the problem. Labeling is an unconscious reaction. The human condition is to judge, label and accuse. It takes emotional intelligence to understand a social construct is meaningless to who you are at essence.

7. The 1% Club. In his book, Toward a Psychology of Being, Abraham Maslow said less than 1% of the adult population manages to develop enough emotionally to reach the top of the hierarchy—self-actualization.

8. The limbic brain or your emotional brain is what lets you love your family and work in groups, collaborate, and contribute toward something more substantial than yourself. Emotions are why we dominate the earth.

9. Emotions are overwhelmingly powerful, and you are full of them! The key to mastering life is to master your emotions.

10. Understand that adopting societal and cultural “norms” is not in your best interest. It takes a strong emotional connection and a keen sense of awareness to recognize what is essential but goes unnoticed.

11. “Emotions will kill you!”—Ray Dalio on 60 Minutes.

12. Negativity, dissonance, and conflict are added, introduced to events. These emotions are not inherent to circumstance.

13. Emotional awareness and strength will shed light on what is silently operating in the background; influencing your thinking, beliefs, narrative and actions.

14. “We think too much and feel too little” Charlie Chaplin

15. Without active involvement from you, life will condition you in the wrong direction.

16. Thoughts lead to emotions, feelings and ultimately action. Each of us tolerates negative and incessant mind chatter. If you are not leading your thoughts, your thoughts are leading you. And that is not good.

17. A positive attitude is comforting, but a solid foundation of emotional intelligence is liberating.

18. “But feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they seem.”–Anne Frank

19. Life-threatening predators such as saber-toothed tigers are gone, but your primal brain still searches for threats. It reacts to perceived threats and “enemies” as if they are life-threatening. Today’s threats are your boss, your competitive colleague, the stock market. Other drivers are perceived as the enemy. Your brain needs retraining!

20. Most people are not leading their life. They react to life. They are passengers, not drivers.

21. Autopilot is good for airplanes but not for you. Most of the average person’s time (46.9%) is spent mentally and emotionally checked out. The result is unhappiness. Look around!

22. Real control is self-control.

23. “In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it.” –Mitch Albom

24. A lack of emotional development stunts your growth.


Control yourself with your Self


25. You must live with the consequences of your actions. Better emotional control leads to results, not consequences. Living with results is better than living with consequences, don’t you think?

26. Reacting blindly to emotions creates more suffering, more harm, more dissonance.

27. Exploitation of emotions such as frustration, anger, and rage has become a for-profit social science. Exploiters want you to stay angry and stay tuned in. Think, radicalized online.

28. If you are not interpreting, directing and managing your emotions, then they are directing and managing you.

29. We all have the responsibility to create human progress, beginning with Self.

30. Difficulties, frustrations, bullies and the like are to be conquered through emotional strength and personal resourcefulness.

31. The mind is meant to be a servant not the master.

32. “Do you imagine the universe is agitated? Go into the desert at night and look at the stars. This practice should answer the question.” –Lao Tzu

33. Too many people allow dysfunction to disrupt their life.

34. Your emotions will betray you.

35. “I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”—Oscar Wilde

36. Humans think with logic but act on emotions.

37. Frustrations and disappointments are only a temporary occurrence.

38. The tides of life will pull you out to sea or wash you on shore at will if you are not emotionally anchored in the depths of your “inner ocean.”

39. Victimism, cynicism, rage, and resentfulness are the antithesis of emotional development.

40. The upward climb may be harder but the downward spiral is detrimental. 

41. Do you want to be trapped by emotions or free to respond based on what you value?

42. Avoid falling into emotional patterns that you are not able to climb out of.

43. Transgressions or mistakes by others, interpreted as personally spiteful and harbored as resentful memories will make you bitter and destructive.

44. The dark side, the shadow is there as is your innate goodness, which will you cultivate?

45. “A small evil becomes a big one through being disregarded and repressed”—Carl Jung 

46. Your emotions are always sending you signals. It is a costly error not to listen or understand the message.

47. Numbing the discomfort of emotions is a cover-up, a sweeping under the rug of the symptoms. The root problem festers. Only wine gets better with age.

48. Just like a dormant volcano erupts from an over-abundance of pressure, you too can erupt from a monstrous return of pent-up frustration, anger, and rage. Think road-rage.

49. If you don’t explore, connect and live from your deep inner ocean, you’ll be seasick every day.

50. Life is difficult. What makes it a tragedy is inattention or disregard for emotions.

Think about that last one. Life is hard, no choice there. But we make a difficult life tragic through inattention, allowing our thoughts to run the show.

This thing up here, this consciousness, thinks it’s running the shop. It’s a secondary organ; it’s a secondary organ of a total human being, and it must not put itself in control. It must submit and serve the humanity of the body.” —Joseph Campbell.


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