I coached a group of realtors and they shared their frustration with personal change.
- I can’t lose weight. The diets and techniques don’t work.
- I am stuck.
- Trying to make a living around here is a downer.
- I try to rise above but always seem to get pulled into the sludge.
At the outset it was clear to me that these folks have let themselves be conditioned the wrong way.
When I asked the classic coaching question, what have you tried? I got a flurry of answers. Techniques, top ten tips, one agent said, I’ve tried everything!
That’s the glaring flare. Trying everything is the reason nothing works. The frustration within this group was so palpable; you could cut it with a knife.
I shared my years of experience on the front lines of change and some observable facts.
Most change advice doesn’t amount to much. It’s different for everyone so standard suggestions have to be adapted to your personal experience. You’ve heard of the saying, your mileage may vary.
In best solution to any gap is get to the underlying cause quickly. The one thing that will expedite personal change no matter who you are or what your situation is quite simple.
Change Your Thinking and the Rest of You Will Follow
Thoughts turn into words, words give rise to emotions and emotions turn into physiology — your make-up, the functioning Self!
It is actually the biggest change you can make. It literally will transform your life.
Dr. Dennis Girston, a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology CORRECTION: The Cleveland Clinic did the research and found that the average person runs about 15,000 60,000 thoughts per day in which 90% are repetitive. The same thoughts every day and 80% of those thoughts are negative.
Here is the clincher. There are 1440 minutes in each day. So that means every minute of everyday your mind is filled up with some kind of self-talk, thinking, ruminating, pondering, brooding or worrying.
It’s no wonder when you try everything to make a change you become frustrated.
Using your power to change your thinking will change your response to any situation and give you the ability to reframe. You will have the ability to bounce back and the ability to expand your perspective, and as a result, the situation will change, your experience will change. You will change your reality.
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Gain control over your habits of thought, your beliefs about what is and what is possible. That’s the constructive zone—and the true meaning of strength.