The True End of 2020. Last week we talked about making resilience a priority.
Now let’s drill into it.
It’s been repeated and probably overused, but this year has been a year like no other. Our weakest link has been exposed.
We get anxious when there’s a threat we can’t see, when we don’t know what will happen and when we don’t know what to do.
Researchers found we would rather take an electrical shock now than endure the unknown possibility of being shocked later. Humans prefer certainty to uncertainty.
But because uncertainty is not a physical object like a snarling dog, we can’t run from it. Instead, our minds become active, and we analyze, rationalize and ruminate—this is what worrying is.
We all know that no one can predict the future. But the mind works feverishly to get to the comfort of ‘certain.’ As a side note… that’s why the brain, which only makes up about 2% of the body’s mass but burns up 20% of the body’s energy.
While uncertainty is the cause of anxiety, we react depending on our tolerance level.
True End of 2020 is to find the antidote is tolerance
Here’s how to increase your tolerance and become more peaceful, productive, and effective—resilient.
Intentionally leave worry questions unanswered. Let uncertainty be. Move on with a focus on the present moment; what is right in front of you. What you are doing here is training your mind. Remember, an untrained mind is unreliable, and you could say that’s what worry is, unreliable.
Eventually, your mind will learn:
- Uncertainty is tolerable, and things usually work out.
- Worry behavior won’t prevent anything from happening.
- Worrying creates more suffering.
- Uncertainty does not require your attention.
Worriers can’t focus. Have you ever heard someone say, I can’t deal with that right now, I’m worried about a,b,c,d,e?
Building tolerance to uncertainty is a one step at a time process, but it’s moving the needle in the right direction, toward resilience.
Nothing can help you more than a trained mind, not even your loving parents. —Buddha