Have you paid attention to the communal narrative around your experiences? My son had a crew race on the Schuylkill River during the all-day rain on Sunday.
The collective narrative spiraled downward with complaints about rowing in the rain. It went something like, “Can you imagine sitting in the boat waiting for the start? There’s nothing worse than just sitting in the rain. Then you have to row with all your energy. That’s worse than no fun”
When I was able to talk to the boys alone I said that now was the time to muster the strength, harness all the training efforts and push extra hard this one time. While everyone else is stifled by the weather, spewing valuable energy into something no one could control, I encouraged a focus, mental toughness, eye on the prize, seize the moment when everyone else is whining and complaining approach.
Spend energy and emotion controlling what you have control over
They came in 4th and even then the boys thought they could have done better. They didn’t get caught up in the dramatic narrative of the rainstorm. They focused on what they wanted to happen and made it go their way. Use yourself to change the outcome rather than complain about the conditions.
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