Who’s The Expert? Like most of you my life has become virtual.
I attended a virtual conference and connected with several colleagues.
There was a marketing coach, a financial coach, an executive (Vistage) coach, a trainer, and a fitness coach at our Zoom conference.
The broad array of topics funneled down to one. How would you advise your clients to stay strong and persevere?
We agreed on one foundational approach. know thyself or, one could say discover thyself!
If you have trouble adhering to a workout regime, developing new, more productive habits, waking up early, personal development or sticking to a healthy lifestyle, it pays to to know why.
The shortest route is to discover the underlying energy that is preventing you from making the changes you want to make.
Do you even want the changes, or are they a whim?
The expert with the highest direct knowledge, the one who has collected enough data and experiences to answer these foundational questions, is you.
As no one else can know how we perceive, we are the best experts on ourselves. Carl Rogers
The following quotes and insight come from Carl Rogers, a founder of the humanistic approach to psychology, someone worth studying.
Rogers analyzed why we struggle and what to do to get unstuck, move beyond perceived limitations, and advance with the ease we were designed to enjoy.
He agreed with Abraham Maslow that self-actualized people are those who are fulfilled and performing at full capacity.
But Rogers added the idea that environment in large part either limits or nourishes our growth. This was Rogers’ primary contribution.
If we were accepted warmly with genuine openness and positive regard, we will flourish.
Just like a flower that has the right soil and conditions will grow and blossom, we will unfold and thrive in the right conditions.
People are inherently good. They become blocked, limited, negative, or destructive only when a poor self-concept—which is the result of trauma, a negative environment, or anything that acts to override the valuing process. In other words, people learn to hate and be cynical.
Trauma or a lousy environment affects us subconsciously, in ways not readily apparent, so it pays to study, analyze, dig, and find out what efforts will most benefit you.
What area will benefit from acute attention? You’re the expert
Studying Carl Rogers taught me to shift and say, what happened to you rather than what’s wrong with you.
Rogers said, when an individual knows and becomes more deeply and fully himself, greater satisfaction and happiness naturally results.
He also said, the good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.
Another reminder of the need for daily attention not the occasional view.