Have you ever wanted to quit your job? My 19-year old son quit his job. That may not sound like decisive and intelligent action but hear me out.
John likes tinkering and figuring anything out that has to do with cars. So in addition to working toward a degree in automotive technology, he took a job at a local repair shop.
At first, it was fine. You know, the “honeymoon period.” After a few weeks, warts began to show. Snarky digs, friction, and tension created everyday pressure. The volcano erupted, when one mechanic threatened another with a large ball-peen hammer. Words and posturing are all that ensued, but it gravely shook John.
What would it take for you to quit your job?
It made John even more uncomfortable and uncertain when the owner/manager did nothing to address the situation. As an Eagle Scout, John knows how to promote respect and integrity. He also knows what detracts from productive days.
In the weeks after the confrontation, John became the target of rude, curt and critical comments and uncivil behavior. He began paying closer attention and noticed that the owner/manager arrived at work angry, irritable and cranky. John said to me, the owner is the source of irritation and conflict!
As a result, John took decisive and intelligent action and quit without notice.
Here’s the logic he applied:
- John cultivates a productive, negative-free future. He felt like he was being pulled into a void of negativity and unhappiness which is out of alignment with who he wants to become.
- John knows what we all know. Negativity spreads more quickly than the common cold.
- It does no good to complain about a situation or others’ behavior. You become part of the problem. An intelligent assessment points to a few productive actions. Drop the negativity just as you would drop a piece of hot coal that is hurting you. If you can do this while you adapt, okay. If not get out. It’s tough to thrive while being surrounded by negativity. Like a fish swimming in polluted water, you are doomed.
- John concluded. The only way to remain free of inner negativity and thus not create any outer pollution was to quit.
At 19, John is way ahead of where I was when I was his age. That’s due to how he is conditioned (every day) at home.
He knows work is not inherently negative and riddled with conflict. The communal narrative is that work is dreadful, a burden. But that is a conditioned reaction in the wrong direction. John knows this at his core.
Taking that stand, you’ll be in a less crowded place.