Current events have me contemplating the truth so I thought I would share my experiences with the slippery topic of the truth.
I often advise my readers (you) not to believe me but to discover things for yourself. That’s because the truth is not expressed in words. You just can’t get there from here.
Truth is revealed. Consider Rick, a client I coached to improve on demeanor, reduce aggression and a cynical attitude. Rick’s CEO wanted to save him, revitalize him, help open his eyes and use his growth as an example for other team members. After Rick’s extensive psychological evaluation, I was called in.
Everyone involved with Rick had questions. He had come from another branch where he couldn’t “gel” with the manager. They were like oil and water and each blamed the other. It was a he-said, she-said situation.
Rick requested to be moved to a different branch and within two years the situation was about the same, not with the manager this time but with team members and customers. It was a gradual build up of angst, backbiting and palpable tension.
I gave Rick several things to read and as we discussed what was going on with him, he came off angry, bitter and immovable. He claimed that he tried everything to improve and nothing worked, as though his behavior and attitude was somehow linked to a technique. This is common when someone other than the client introduces change and improvement.
I saw Rick as angry. He brought his anger to work. The manager was merely a trigger. Rick disagreed and insisted, made bets and “swore on a stack of Bibles” he was not angry.
After a little over three months of coaching Rick had a major blow up with a team member and was removed on the spot.
The interim report I gave to the CEO prior was revealed to be true. Note, not by words but rather by actions. Rick could not tell the truth but he showed us the truth. As Emerson said so eloquently, what you are speaks so loud I can’t hear what you say.
Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth—Buddha
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