This memo begins a new series. In last week’s memo we talked about polarization and deep divides—a destructive dynamic that has become established and accepted as the “norm.” We need Healing!
We see anger regularly. Overreaction, outbursts and meltdowns have become the standard response. This destructive dynamic has ended relationships and broken careers. It can stop progress in its tracks and it has become normalized.
But what is at the root of the anger? It is a critical first step to always recognize the emotion at the root. Anger just doesn’t appear out of nowhere. If you have an outburst like Robert De Nero’s, you were carrying around that anger emotion long before it came out. It has been there smoldering and affecting your decisions, all of your actions and your mood—your entire life!
Anger is a symptom of frustration, disappointment, being invalidated, having your values stepped on, feeling as though you are being attacked, treated unfairly, like you are not being heard, your opinions don’t matter; and if you are paying attention, you recognize there is a lot of this going on in our world today.
My usual antidote is to suggest a stronger stance, lead your life don’t follow the communal narrative. But as I listen closely, I hear people are suffering, they are offended, wounded and suffering in a “combative culture.” Many people feel voiceless and marginalized.
Maybe they need to heal and rebuild before they can stand stronger.
So this series is about healing. We need to recognize who or what is pushing our buttons and take stock of where we are and begin healing.
Here’s how to begin:
- Avoid the trap of categories that divide. Remember the humanity in everyone. Give everyone basic respect just for being human.
- Look beyond concepts. They are static and frozen. Reality is constantly flowing and alive but concepts minimize and deaden it to a dull luster. The great philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti put it well when he said, the day you teach the child the name of the bird, the child will never see that bird again.
- Pause and use your awareness to see the depth and beauty of daily life.
Rise above the societal norms and be reminded that we are still the richest, most developed country in the world.
Before you snap at your neighbor or resent someone who may have more than you, remember, all men are literally created equal. Their thinking may not align with yours but we are called to respect all views. You stand to benefit most from living in acceptance.
Start With YOU. Listen to my Podcast. It is designed to help you identify and grow your core strengths, the essential Self, essence…and grow to the point where your buttons are only pushed by you. YOU are at the controls.
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