Why You Need Leadership for Life
Finally realizing this is not where I want to be at this stage of my life, most people either throw their hands up in overwhelm or furiously work harder, read more books, attend seminars and workshops–doing anything to fix the situation, not realizing they have what is needed-Leadership for Life.
Taking action while you’re running on empty just doesn’t do it. The old saying if you find yourself in a hole, stop digging has truth to it. Pause and reflect………..
Why You Need Leadership for Life
Most people don’t grasp that Leadership for Life is the one thing that can change everything. They are not leading their lives. These people are following. What they see in Society and what culture dictates and becomes their strategy.They react to the communal narrative and follow the current culture. They end up following, living with the results of someone else’s dogma.
A Grave Error
Most people don’t view themselves as a leader and this is a grave error I see too often. They leave it to someone else to lead and they follow from a weak, subordinate position. It doesn’t matter if you are 18 or 80, You Are a Leader! You must live with and own the consequences of your life, you better be leading your life. Shoulder the responsibility to lead your life!
The Price of Following and Not Leading
While following along is lighter, takes less effort and is easier and less scary, following contributes to unhappiness while you’re not looking. And it’s difficult if not impossible to perform at your best when you are unhappy.
Consider: as you try to grow, move forward and achieve viewing everything through the filter of unhappiness, what will be the outcome?
In society and common culture, daily frustrations, lack of fulfillment, anxiety, resentment, etc.…. are viewed as necessary, even justified. “Oh, that’s part of the plan. Everyone tolerates it.”
In reality there are all sorts of negatives that are readily overlooked and accepted as “normal.” They accumulate and collectively contribute to your unhappiness. If you are not careful, they could erupt one day.
At the root of following along is The Umbrella of Unhappiness that colors every effort.
Don’t listen to me blindly. I encourage you to validate this through your own experience. A background or underpinning of unhappiness is for many people a predominant state. Look around watch the nightly news, read the newspaper. Are people happy? Are they where they want to be? Do you see them leading their lives or are they miserably following like weak lemmings?
The Umbrella of Unhappiness is the umbrella under which negativity falls. Unhappiness disrupts your performance and effectiveness. It detracts from your self-image, how others view you, the influence you exert. With deeper analysis you could say that unhappiness is in fact, a symptom of a larger, more fundamental issue—not leading your life.
Do the Math Under the Umbrella
Every factor that is under the Umbrella of Unhappiness is a byproduct or a consequence of surrendering the reins—being the servant to your circumstances rather than the master of your destiny.
- Frustrated—things don’t go as planned and you feel powerless.
- Victim—this always happens to me.
- Stress—stress increases as your sense of control decreases.
- Resentment—a result of a position of weakness and insecurity.
- Unfulfilled—making a living not a life.
- Anger—your buttons are easily pushed.
- Anxiety—you are uncertain and afraid.
- Stagnant—stuck in this place.
- Not where you want to be at this stage of life.
- Lost—not blazing your own trail of self-realization.
Without Leadership for Life your growth is stunted.
Look closely and you’ll see the results of this stunted growth. Witness the unskillful living, lack of personal leadership, no direction and small mindedness. People who are lost operate from a follower position of weakness and they show up in the headlines.
*The vast majority of Americans (~160 million) are overweight and are lost with how to lead themselves out of it. Don’t be Part of the Crowd. Identify and Overcome Your Barriers to Exercise
*Being in a coveted position of power and leadership doesn’t change the fact that most people don’t lead themselves so how can they even begin to lead others? Almost 70% of U.S. Managers are Scared to Talk to Their Employees
*Weak fearful and insecure people in leadership positions create more pain and conflict. Uber CEO Apologizes Says He Needs to Grow Up
“My job is killing me. My career is not challenging or fulfilling. It’s drudgery but I can’t change careers now. I have a mortgage, a family, I finally have the house I’ve always wanted. I am stuck and miserable.”
You owe it to yourself and your family to find meaning and purpose–a new direction, new enthusiasm for life. Make Leadership for Life a choice.
If people would choose Leadership for Life and lead their lives with strength, resourcefulness and empowerment do you think they would be miserable, or appear in the headlines out of control, unprofessional and fearful…. creating dissonance, adding more pain and creating more suffering? Of course not!
Here Are 5 Strategies to Begin a Journey of Leadership for Life
Separate fact from fiction. The rent is due and I only have half of the money is a fact. I’m ruined, my life is over…This is fiction, a creation of the mind. The fact is you can change things, earn more, save more, adapt.
Build awareness. Recognize how thoughts take you over and direct you. All you have to do is recognize the habits and patterns of your mind, the negative and repetitive thinking. They begin to melt away under the light of you understanding the mechanism.
Lead your thinking. Negative thinking leads to negative feelings. We conjure up wild stories of what reality is—they didn’t call back because they don’t like me and we believe them! The reality is our interpretation colors events that are neutral. The Universe is neutral. Your thinking makes it good/bad, positive/negative.
Shift. You may find it difficult at first to just be aware of your thoughts while remaining calm. In this instance, use your body to change your energy. Shift your position; stretch, take a walk or exercise to get beyond an unproductive thought or a knee-jerk reaction. Research shows that using your entire self provides solutions that are unavailable otherwise.
Write your own script. Don’t readily buy into the communal narrative, cultural norms or water cooler talk. A college degree won’t help in this economy, running is bad for your knees, my family has heart disease and I’ll get it too. These are interpretations, ideas, concepts. Discover for yourself what works. How well you live is 20% genes and 80% YOU.
The 80% YOU is where your leadership—leading your life makes all the difference.
Remember,You Become What You Think About Most. Think More deeply About Leadership and Develop Leadership for Life
Since our culture is predominantly negative and negativity collectively contributes to unhappiness, we become unhappy.
Avoid the fatal flaw of following along with the communal narrative, societal norms, current culture while expecting different results. You can’t follow everyone else and then stand out as super successful, happy, at ease, decisive empowered creative who is and creating their own destiny.
Stop following along and Lead Your Life. Become the master of your destiny rather than the servant of your circumstances. Don’t spread and transfer the negativity around creating more pain, suffering and unhappiness. Allow the new to Start With YOU.
You may not eliminate everything under The Umbrella of Unhappiness altogether but unhappiness will no longer immobilize you, control you or take you over. You will be leading not following.
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